I Don't Get It

Alright, my reader's as promised I am going to ruffle a few feathers and get a little graphic in this Friday's blog. I am going to write about the porn industry and its affect on relationships and marriage. You have been warned. If you choose, now is the time to leave.

About a year or so ago I was channel surfing trying to find what was on television when I came across this news show that was talking about the business side of the porn industry and all of the money it generates. One thing in particular caught my eye: This woman who was (or is ) doing it, it showed her and her life outside of it and her life with her family. Apparently, according to this show, she is a wife and a mother. Yeah, you read it right, she is (or was) doing porn and she is a mother. I Don't Get It. How can you be in a business like that with all that they do through out the day when their filming and than come home to the wife and or husband and consider it a days work?

In my opinion, you can't. You can not be honest in either a marriage or a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship when you are doing porn. I don't call them actors, because their not. Let's be serious, if sex was 'acting' anyone who has ever had it would be actor's.

It's an addiction, I think. You either can't get enough sex or you can't get enough women, either one.

Did I mention this woman had a kid. I can't even imagine that. If you were to think about it, "mom " is not helping her child by her choice in a career. It would hurt more than it would help I would think.

Heres why I think it would hurt. Two reasons. One:being the odd kid out when the child is in school and everyone ask, 'OK, what does your mother do'? It would be a complete shock to the teacher's if they were to find out.

Two: The bullying. Yes, I said bullying. It has to happen, no child preteen or teen is seriously going to look at this and think it's the coolest thing ever. Even the child in question would hear more than once "hey, I saw your mom in a video,can she come over to my house?"

Than, I think most importantly would be the strain on the marriage and or relationship. I should probably stop here because a married couple doesn't want to hear from a guy who has never been married on how a marriage should work and how to keep it together. Fair enough. But, if I may say, please just hear me out, if I am wrong with anything that I write, I stand corrected.

Anyone who has ever been in a relationship with either a man or woman, I think it is very safe to say they don't like to be cheated on. If anyone would say they do, I think they would be lieing, personally, but I digress. When you are in a relationship you want honesty from that person. That is why or at least should be why they say they love you.

It is very safe to say that if this woman in the show that I saw was in fact married she is cheating on her husband and it calls for a unhealthy marriage.

I know there are some of you that read this blog that are married, and I wouldn't doubt for a second that you and your spouse take the relationship very seriously. You would try the best that you can not to jeopardize it.

This woman isn't trying very hard.

But, she is not the only one. There are countless stories of married couples that have cheated on one another. Alot end up in divorce, alot of them want to work on it, to keep the marriage and or relationship intact.

If there are and obviously there are people that don't seem to care.

About twenty years ago, give or take, I had a best friend who's name was Kurt. Kurt had a girlfriend who was named Pam and they were engaged and expecting. The girlfriend had a friend who to put it mildly was or has to be one of the most obnoxious people I have ever met in my life. This woman just didn't care who she hurt or the way she did it. She was married and I guess just to cheat on the husband because she couldn't find anything else better to do, she cornered me and actually asked me to sleep with her. I am not making this up. I didn't. Here is why: She was married and even though at the time I wasn't a Christian I took the sanctity of marriage seriously. Even though to a degree I did get involved with her and her husbands issues, I didn't go too far with it,Thank God.

Maybe it's just me. I'll say it again, I am not in a relationship at the moment so maybe I don't know what length a couple would go to and even if there is such as a thing as an 'open' marriage/relationship. If there was would you seriously want it?

David.