Father's

Good Sunday to you, my reader's. I hope you like tis one.

Over the last couple of weeks I have been thinking of this topic. No one wants to hear from some one talk about being a parent if they have'nt experianced it for them selves, and I would agree with that. And what I mean by 'experianced' is all the joys, frustrations, etc that come with having children. That is something I have yet to have happen to me, so I thought perhaps don't write about it.

So, I am not going to.

What this is about today should not be taken as my advice on how to raise kids, but on how I look towards people I know who are father's and what I have seen in their relation ship with their children.

I have yet to meet my father, but yet at the same time I have always known him. I consider my grandfather to be my dad, even though he has since passed away, he is still my dad and I miss him to this day.

What I miss the most is the advice that I think every father gives to his son's. I call it the stress of everyday life. I think that mother's give the same advice to their daughter's.

It is what every body goes through and if you have some to talk to, some one who is going to say "yeah, I have been there" it's encouraging for the person hearing it.

To this day I wish I had that. It would make it a little easier to get through the day some times.

Perhaps I am wrong with what I am about to write and with that being said, if I am I stand corrected, but perhaps it is better for a son to talk with is father and a daughter to talk with her mother because it is two diffrent people and not to sound lewd or foul in anyway, but maybe it sound's better for a male parent to talk with his male child and a female parent to talk with her female child well, about delecate issues. If anything, better understanding. Not that the mother nor the father could discuss both and give advice to help either child.
Like I said, If I am wrong I stand corrected.

I read this saying once, and I hope I get it right: "Any man can be a father, but it takes a real man to be a Dad" I think what that saying implies is that any man can have a relationship with a woman and find out later that he is an expectant father and when he hears it, he leaves.

It takes a Man to take the responceabilty and say he wants to be there for his children regardless of the circumstances.

I have tons of respect for guys who do that.

In closing I would like to say three things

one: I had received an e-mail about a year ago from a friend of mine who said he was going to change the daily schedules of his kids after one of them woke him up in the wee hours of the morning. I had responed back to him saying that it is probably a good thing because he had told me the one of his children had something important to do later in the week and it was probably a good thing to get him used to waking up early.

Than I stopped myself. I thought what I had sent was foolish, I have no say in what goes on in that familys life and I am sure my friend knew exactly what he was doing and the reasons behind it. Did I over step?

Maybe, but you would need to ask my friend what he thinks of the matter.

Second: I am not writing this blog today to lay blame as to why my mother and father couldn't work it out either before or after I was born. I don't really care. Like I said (wrote) I had a dad, I don't need to go looking for another one.

Even if I found him, it would't matter. You cant make up for lost time no matter how hard you try. And it has been 41 years.

And third: I didn't relise all this stuff about my gradfather till after he had passed.

And its funny..... people go searching for stuff like this and they can't see that it has been right in front of them the whole time.

David.

Happy Anniversary, Grandma.

Hello, my reader's. Wanting to send you a Thanksgiving wish for those living America that read this blog today or when you get the chance.

Topic today blends in with The holiday.

My grandmother is celebrating an anniversery this week. It is not the day she married my grandfather nor is it the anniversary of her birth. The anniversery is for the both of us.

But before I tell you what it is about, I feel it is only fitting that I explain what it is we're celebrating. If you recall in a previous blog topic over the summer entitled 'Childhood Memories' I had written about a home for boys I was at when I was a child. The annivsery is for the day I left the home and went to live with my grandparents. 29 years ago this Wednesday. Day before Thanksgiving.

I have never told anyone this and the only people that know about this event, if I can call it that is my gradmother and I. I can't explain to you why I remember this day, I just do.

the day itself, 29 years ago I also recall. I remember being in a school in Redlands, california and saying goodbye to fellow class mates.While most of the kids were saying 'bye, Happy Thanksgiving. See you Monday, I knew for myself I wouldn't be. It brought tears to my eyes while I was sitting in a school bus waiting to go back to the home I was living at.

While at the boys home, waiting for my grandma to arrive I said goodbye to other boys I was living with and like any other 11 year old kid, waiting for my grandma's car to show. When I saw it I was estatic.

I recall one of the worker's at the home, a big named Hal who to this day remeinds me of Will Geer, the grandfather of the clasic tv show, the Waltons. But much younger than Mr. Geer. I recall my frst meeting with hal about a year prior to me leaving and it didnt go over to well.

But, there we were both Hal and myself and he is teling my grandma just how much not only the boys in the home will miss me, but how he and the other staff would as well.

Another thing I remember about that last day was Hal paid me the money he owed me from a bet we had made. He had bet me a week prior to leaving that I would mess up some how and I wouldn't be able to go to my new home with my grandparents. Easiest $10 I have ever made.

The past 29 years have been a blast.
I praise God that I have been a man to stay out of serious trouble with the law and that even though I have regrets to a degree (everyone does) there is not too much I would change.

So, Happy Anniversery, Grandma. And here's to the next 29 years.

David.

Election Night

Hello, reader's. How are ya'? Good, I hope.


Well, The election in the USA has come and gone. It was this past Tuesday. Biggest win was with the house of reprasentives leaning more to the right than the left. Whether or not that was a good thing or not remains to be seen.

I used to think that politcians were on the level. Perhaps they are or at least some of them are, but now my views have started to change. When it comes to a politcian you don't know who can trust. Like every election campaign you have politcians who are runing that may run a tv spot. Than you have his or her rival doing the same. Seems like the object of it all is who can talk trash about the other one the quickest.

Makes it difficult to believe either one of them.

I personally did not vote, I guess because of the reasons I have just stated.

One thing you can't do, or at least in my opinion is blame just one person.
There also seems to be alot of that going on in the aftermath of the election. is it Obama's? Who is to say.

I guess we are all going to find what changes are coming with in the next couple of months.

David