Father's

Good Sunday to you, my reader's. I hope you like tis one.

Over the last couple of weeks I have been thinking of this topic. No one wants to hear from some one talk about being a parent if they have'nt experianced it for them selves, and I would agree with that. And what I mean by 'experianced' is all the joys, frustrations, etc that come with having children. That is something I have yet to have happen to me, so I thought perhaps don't write about it.

So, I am not going to.

What this is about today should not be taken as my advice on how to raise kids, but on how I look towards people I know who are father's and what I have seen in their relation ship with their children.

I have yet to meet my father, but yet at the same time I have always known him. I consider my grandfather to be my dad, even though he has since passed away, he is still my dad and I miss him to this day.

What I miss the most is the advice that I think every father gives to his son's. I call it the stress of everyday life. I think that mother's give the same advice to their daughter's.

It is what every body goes through and if you have some to talk to, some one who is going to say "yeah, I have been there" it's encouraging for the person hearing it.

To this day I wish I had that. It would make it a little easier to get through the day some times.

Perhaps I am wrong with what I am about to write and with that being said, if I am I stand corrected, but perhaps it is better for a son to talk with is father and a daughter to talk with her mother because it is two diffrent people and not to sound lewd or foul in anyway, but maybe it sound's better for a male parent to talk with his male child and a female parent to talk with her female child well, about delecate issues. If anything, better understanding. Not that the mother nor the father could discuss both and give advice to help either child.
Like I said, If I am wrong I stand corrected.

I read this saying once, and I hope I get it right: "Any man can be a father, but it takes a real man to be a Dad" I think what that saying implies is that any man can have a relationship with a woman and find out later that he is an expectant father and when he hears it, he leaves.

It takes a Man to take the responceabilty and say he wants to be there for his children regardless of the circumstances.

I have tons of respect for guys who do that.

In closing I would like to say three things

one: I had received an e-mail about a year ago from a friend of mine who said he was going to change the daily schedules of his kids after one of them woke him up in the wee hours of the morning. I had responed back to him saying that it is probably a good thing because he had told me the one of his children had something important to do later in the week and it was probably a good thing to get him used to waking up early.

Than I stopped myself. I thought what I had sent was foolish, I have no say in what goes on in that familys life and I am sure my friend knew exactly what he was doing and the reasons behind it. Did I over step?

Maybe, but you would need to ask my friend what he thinks of the matter.

Second: I am not writing this blog today to lay blame as to why my mother and father couldn't work it out either before or after I was born. I don't really care. Like I said (wrote) I had a dad, I don't need to go looking for another one.

Even if I found him, it would't matter. You cant make up for lost time no matter how hard you try. And it has been 41 years.

And third: I didn't relise all this stuff about my gradfather till after he had passed.

And its funny..... people go searching for stuff like this and they can't see that it has been right in front of them the whole time.

David.