Over the summer I was watching a television show where a guy met his younger brother for the very first time in their lives. I don't know the whole story so I am not going to make things up as I go along, but I can tell you is this. The father of both these two men tried, as I found out while watching the show to get in contact with the other son. The son wanted nothing to do with him, or so I gathered from what I saw. In turn, the father must have told his other children about this man, his career, etc.
When the two brother did finally meet I got the impression from watching the tv show that they got along well and that it seemed they known each other all their lives.
But that's television and It's usally not how it goes. It might be safe to say that even the two brothers communicate with each other they still have alot to go before they can say, 'yeah, were good'
After I had seen this show I started thinking about the relationship I have with my siblings. Don't get me wrong, I love them and I am sure in return they feel the same way about me. Even though it can be rocky at times, I am a part of their lives, they will always be a part of mine. And I love that fact.
But what I got to thinking about was my father who I was never close to and didn't have the chance of meeting.
It could be possible that I might have brother's and sisters I never knew about. I can't prove this, but I wouldn't doubt it
Here is the thing about it. I don't think I want to know. Yeah, it may sound rude and a little heart less but thats how I feel. If I can, let me explain.
Like I said, I have five younger siblings, three brothers and two sisters who I love and respect dearly. I am content with having what I have and knowing what I know.
Having other siblings wouldn't change anything.
If anything it would be awkward. Especially that first meeting.
I am going to give two hypothetical reasons. One, let's say I do search for these people and I find out that during the course of my fathers life he made money. And I do mean money, which would leave his children rich. Perhaps they might think the only reason I searched for them was to get some of that money. Some may feel it's owed to me, others might feel I should just leave it alone.
I would leave it alone. Once again, I can not prove these people exist and what I am writing is just a theory.
But it could be a possible scenario.
Another scenario would be that they are the most insane people on earth and even Jerry Springer would have to say they're bizare and would never be on his show.
If that was the case, the five siblings that I have I would appreciate even more than what I do already.
Other people may not feel the same I do,If you have other siblings and can prove it, I am not saying you shouldn't look into it, that choice is yours.
To each his own I guess it would be safe to say.
In closing I will leave with these two things:
If you recall in a previous blog entry I wrote sometime last year I made refernce to both my father and my grandfather. I had wrote that I felt I didn't need to look for a father figure because I had one and it wasn't going to get any better than what it was with my grandpa.
I feel the same way about my brother and sisters. Do we have arguements? You bet. Do we some times say hurtful things that we sometimes mean or don't mean to say? Absolutely. We are not perfect by any stretch. But, what we do have is we get along, we let by gones be by gones. Some things are tough and we may not speak to one another for a period of time, but we come around.
I wouldn't want it any other way.
In the Book of Genesis the story of Joesph and his brothers. His older brothers sold him into slavery, years later when Joesph became a ruler over his land they saw each other again and he forgave them because he knew this was Gods plan.
You deal with the cards you have been delt with.
Once again, I can not prove that my father had other children, and I don't want to. They would have to make the first move.
I'm not going to hold my breath and wait for that moment to arrive.
