Ok, I am just writing this to get it off my chest once and for all. If you recall not too long ago I wrote a blog about attending a church in Arizona and what they did, or the pastor anyway to screw me over. If you have for gotten, I was accused of stalking. I will say it again, I never did it.
So, for this blog entry I would like to explain what I did and briefly if I can, explain what stalking is ( according to research I have done) and than leave it alone with my opinion on things I have observed over time.
Stalking, according to Wikipedia is:obsessive attention by individuals to other's. it can also be described as a form of harassment and intimidation. Wikipedia goes further with their explanation, and later I will add more of it, but for those of you that read the last blog about this, I want to set the record straight.
Kingman, Arizona is a small town, give or take 20 to 30 thousand people last I heard, so the chances of running into someone you might know happens often. You can ignore them, but than you would hear about it from some one, like say your pastor or a relative etc asking you why you were so rude, so if I see someone I know, and I feel like talking to them, I do, if I don't, than I don't. Never have I followed them while they are doing their shopping.
Say for instance, you are at a store, or any kind of building with alot of people, and you and a large group of people are walking out a door to get to the parking lot so you can leave. Just because you are trying to find your vehicle doesn't mean you're a stalker.
Now, you might run across people that for what ever the reason don't like to be followed. They might have had a horrible experience that leaves them scared of people, even people they have never met. It's unfortunate, but at the same time they shouldn't take it out on you, because, you're going out the only door you can find.
Its a dangerous thing, stalking, some times even resulting in death. John Lennon would still be alive to this very day if his killer wasn't waiting for him in front of his home.
I have stated this before at one point, but I have met my share of actors and actress's mostly by plain accident.
Only a few times have I actually made plans with the actor or actress to actually sit down and meet with them. Its a rare thing, but it has happened. In either scenario, either by accident or with a scheduled meeting, never have I said or thought I wasn't going to leave them alone.
I respect their privacy, regardless of where ever it was I had met them.
A couple of years ago, when I was still living in southern California, I was shopping at a mall where I could have sworn I saw Oscar winning actress Diane Keaton. I left it alone. Didn't stand out in front of the store waiting for her to come out, I just saw her and walked away. Once again, respecting the privacy of other's.
I have actors and actress's and musicians on both my Twitter and Facebook pages, and I do read their comments and if I feel like responding, I do. Same thing with anyone on those two social networking sites.
Just because I comment or even want to follow them does not make me, or anyone else a stalker.
I personally think the term to a degree has been taken out of content. People would like to use it for anything, and it shouldn't be. You can be questioned by other people and like me have to defend your self to other people you considered to be friends.
I am sure you have heard story's about people that stand out in front of a celebrity's home and wait for that one chance to see them. That's something I have never been able to understand. Granted, these people may have talent, but why do it? To me, its bizarre behavior. Doesn't matter what the actor, actress, musician sports figure, etc, I would never do it, once again, because I respect their privacy.
Here's how I look at it: Actor,musician, etc, they have talent. Thats where I leave it. I don't make any more out of it than that . If the person in question wants to be friends, and yes that has happened,I welcome it. But always remembering like any friend, to be respect full.
So, that is stalking, a definition and my opinion. If for any reason, the pastor of that Kingman area church should read this, I have but one thing to say to him: You have just read the definition of stalking. Get it right, and don't accuse anyone else of it. You continue to do so, you won't have a church much longer.
David.
